Men often have trouble committing to relationships. Women are usually the most eager; when they start dating, they give thought to engagement, marriage, and family-automatically. Men need more time and are often bombarded by women who “know what they want” and do not have the patience to allow him to know what he wants. If you want to learn how to get him to commit to a relationship, keep these tips in mind in your everyday encounter with the one you love. First, stop talking about marriage. It is very likely that you have been doing everything you can to get him to see the “m” word in a different light. You want him to go with you to each friend’s wedding, couple’s retreat, and romantic movie at the movie theater on Friday evenings. It seems that love and marriage are all you talk about; however, he still has the same opinion of marriage he had before you started to discuss it. He is not ready, and yet you keep pushing the subject. If you continue to push, you may just push him right out of your life. The best advice in this situation is to find a new discussion to engage with him.
Next, allow him time to gather his thoughts on love and marriage. Men are a bit hesitant about marriage with the woman they are dating until they feel it is time. They are aware that the woman in their life is ready, but they have never given thought to the idea. Think about what a man must go through in order to prepare for marriage: even if he is committed to one woman (you), he must still prepare himself financially to purchase an engagement ring, pop the question, then pay for the wedding and the wedding rings-possibly the honeymoon, too. And when the two of you come home from Honolulu, Hawaii, or the Bahamas, he must ensure that the two of you have a home to live in. It goes against his pride and ego to move into the woman’s home or live off of her paycheck when he is unemployed. He must plan ahead to make room in his life for you. Would you rather he commit to you with no plans made? Do you care if he has financial provision for you and a future family? If you care about these questions, then you should also care about the answers.
Lastly, you can get him to commit to a relationship by indirectly increasing his “possessiveness” over you. Every man, no matter the personality type, feels possessive about the woman in his life. No man wants to see the woman in his life without him. If you find a way to have time apart from him with your female friends, or time to go on vacations by yourself, he will see that you will continue to live your life even if he chooses not to experience it with you. Let him know through your actions that you are not afraid to move on and that, should it come to that, you will keep moving forward.
If he takes you seriously, he will only be able to stand it for so long before he joins in on the fun.
Next, allow him time to gather his thoughts on love and marriage. Men are a bit hesitant about marriage with the woman they are dating until they feel it is time. They are aware that the woman in their life is ready, but they have never given thought to the idea. Think about what a man must go through in order to prepare for marriage: even if he is committed to one woman (you), he must still prepare himself financially to purchase an engagement ring, pop the question, then pay for the wedding and the wedding rings-possibly the honeymoon, too. And when the two of you come home from Honolulu, Hawaii, or the Bahamas, he must ensure that the two of you have a home to live in. It goes against his pride and ego to move into the woman’s home or live off of her paycheck when he is unemployed. He must plan ahead to make room in his life for you. Would you rather he commit to you with no plans made? Do you care if he has financial provision for you and a future family? If you care about these questions, then you should also care about the answers.
Lastly, you can get him to commit to a relationship by indirectly increasing his “possessiveness” over you. Every man, no matter the personality type, feels possessive about the woman in his life. No man wants to see the woman in his life without him. If you find a way to have time apart from him with your female friends, or time to go on vacations by yourself, he will see that you will continue to live your life even if he chooses not to experience it with you. Let him know through your actions that you are not afraid to move on and that, should it come to that, you will keep moving forward.
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